June is practically over, but quite a bit has happened this month and if I tried to do just one post it would last forever. So here is the first of a few for the month of June...
Ryan has a moley back. I don't have a lot of experience with moles because I don't have any, but Ryan had one that I have been particularly concerned with for a while now. So we got him an appointment on the last day of May to get this mole situation checked by a real doctor instead of just my-nagging-self. The doctor agreed that the one I was worried about was concerning enough to biopsy and also decided that another one (that I hadn't even noticed) was somewhat abnormal, so they biopsied that one as well. He didn't seem too freaked about them though so I just left with the satisfaction that a doctor had seen them and IF they were bad then they were already out....
Fast forward about a week
Ryan comes home on a Tuesday and he's been home for about an hour and we have just been chatting about how our days have been and yada yada yada and then he tells me, "So something we should be praying about, the doctor called me today...." and that was all he had to say for me to start freaking out. Everyone knows that the doctor never calls you back if everything is A-OK, right? I knew that. Ryan proceeds to tell me that they called him about his biopsies and that one mole is mildly abnormal so they need to keep watching it, but that the other one is Melanoma & needs to come out. Skin Cancer.
Cancer. Cancer. Cancer.
I immediately start balling as images of me going to the funeral of the man of my dreams/ husband of 4 months start running through my head (y'all, I am not even exaggerating). Ryan of course is not at all concerned about the cancer part of it. He tells me "its only stage zero" (called melanoma in situ) but I tell him "it doesn't matter! It's cancer! and skin cancer can spread so quickly/easily". That doesn't convince him to worry. Actually, Ryan is really great at not worrying; Ryan is really great at being the opposite of all my bad qualities, one of those is being a BIG worry wort! It's just all those what-if's out there in life that get me. I honestly think, though, that one reason I worry is because I am a control freak. I like to plan the way things are going to go, and get frustrated when things don't go the right way or if plans change at the last minute. (Another great thing about Ryan, he just goes with the flow). He truly knows how to make lemonade when life throws lemons at him. I just become sour. (pun intended!) Our marriage is just another reminder of how big God is; he doesn't just haphazardly throw our lives together as if he just has to manage us. He LOVES us and is a meticulous mastermind at every detail in our lives, a major on being your spouse. I mean come on, if God just happened to throw me together with an anal worrier like myself, we'd die just from the stress of trying to plan out our lives! I just pray Ryan is rubbin' off on me!
So back to the cancer. On the phone they told Ryan that we need to come in the following Friday when their cancer surgeon flys in to get the remainder of the mole out (plus some, due to the margin of healthy cells they need to get to ensure the melanoma is all removed). They also tell him that this time, it could cost anywhere from $600-1500. WOW. We did NOT have that much money! Because Ryan's deductible has not been met yet we had to pay the full amount of whatever it would cost, which of course they would not be able to tell us that amount until the day of because it is dependent on how much they have to cut out. Now we are worried. Oh, let me rephrase. I am worried, Ryan is just wondering where we will get that kind of money.
Keeping all that in mind, lets back up a few days. A good friend of ours has been strapped for money lately and this friend asked Ryan if we could spot them some money. So Ryan gives our friend the little bit of cash we had on us that night and then met up the following day and gave some more. Now we are not poor, but we are newlyweds and do try to make our money spread as best we can, but we do believe that the body of Christ is meant to take care of each other just as they did in the first church in Acts. So we gave our friend the money just thinking we'd just not eat out a few more times that we normally would have. Now fast forward to the weekend (at this point we know about melanoma & upcoming money needs), Ryan & I were going to Gainesville to watch the little girl that I used to babysit in her end of the year dance recital. I am close the the kids' mom so it was so great to see her recital but also to be able to spend time with the whole family while we were there! I had not however told the mom about the cancer/money issue just cause Ryan & I weren't talking about it with anyone yet. But she gave us gas money for coming to Gaiensville (such a blessing!) and wouldn't you know it....she gave us the EXACT same amount of money we gave to our friend just the weekend before! You'd think at that point I would get the picture: God provides!! nope.
So another tid-bit from back in May.... Ryan's brother Aaron has been up at Kentucky Christian University since January and he came to visit in May. He told us about the 30 hour famine he did up there recently and the things that he learned/ was convicted about in regards to fasting. How it shouldn't be an abnormal thing in the Christian walk & how it is all throughout the bible and Jesus did it so we should too. So a few weeks later, Ryan & I decided to begin fasting once a week. I am not trying to "toot our horns", but am setting the stage for God-awesomeness that happens when we obey, and hopefully to encourage you to try fasting too!
So at this point is it week 5 or 6 in our journey of fasting one day a week & we have really been working to make sure we are not simply just not eating, but spending more time in the word & deepening our prayer time with God. And let me tell ya, we had been majorly crying out to God about WHERE we were going to get money for his surgery and asking/ relying on him to provide. So Monday is "fast day", and Tuesday morning a friend calls me while I'm at work and asks me to call her back when I can. But then she texts me and tells me that her and her husband would really like to loan Ryan & I the money for his surgery. She said God laid it on their hearts and they really wanted to help us.
Go ahead. Take a moment to gasp & stand in awe of Him.
we sure did!
I called her and thanked her profusely and then called Ryan and told him, to which he didn't really say much. Really... he just sat there in silence! Later that evening we talked and he said "you know normally I wouldn't want to borrow from someone, but this timing is just SO GOD! we have been praying for a week about this and especially yesterday while we were fasting. and this is totally God!" And MAN! It is! Once again, God provided the money when we had no idea where it would come from, and we got to be the recipients of the body of Christ caring for each other.
Ryan got his surgery last Friday and wooo boy! They took a good chunk out of him! But they stitched him up and sent us home with some pain meds and sent his skin chunk of to pathology. (We will know for sure next week if they got all the cancer cells out, please be praying!) The total ended up being about $800, a little more than HALF the amount it could have been!! Thank you Jesus!! But God had one last kicker for us! A while back we switched our car financing from the car dealership to our bank and doing so saved us almost $700, but we hadn't received the check from the dealership yet and it had been a while. YESTERDAY Ryan checked the mail and guess what was in there? A check from VW for almost $700!! That almost covers what we need to pay back to our friends!!
If you can take away ANYTHING from my extremely long blog, please let it be that GOD PROVIDES and don't worry about how YOU can take care of things, but just cry out to him!! Praise be to the Lord!!
Here is Ryan's back after the surgery!
Some verses we continually looked to for peace & encouragement during this crazy month were:
Psalm 138:7-8
"Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes [insert: cancer], with your right hand you save me. The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your love, O Lord, endures forever- you do not abandon the works of your hands."
1 John 4:12, 18
"No one has ever seen God but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us"
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment...."
2 Chronicles 16:12-13
"In the 39th year of his reign King Asa developed a serious foot disease. Yet even with the severity of his disease, he did not seek the Lord's help but turned only to his physicians so he dies in the 41st year of his reign." (2 years later)
2 Chronicles 15:15
"All in Judah were happy about this covenant, for they had entered into it with all their heart. They earnestly sought after God, and they found him. And the LORD gave them rest from their enemies on every side."